Control freak. Perfectionist. OCD. Type A.
Negative self talk. Worry. Anxiety. Stress.
It’s time to surrender. Even scare yourself if you have to. I promise you’ll become comfortable with doing uncomfortable things.
I truly believe that whether you’re well into your career or in school completing your education, you know if you’re putting in the proper effort. You are well aware of the fact that you’re trying your best or seriously slacking. If you know you’re trying your best, working hard, and following through – do yourself a favor -don’t be afraid to acknowledge your efforts privately and reward yourself. Take that time to look at how far you’ve come and acknowledge how much you’ve accomplished.
I think it’s time to set some healthy boundaries. Everywhere. With friends, coworkers, family, etc. I went to urgent care about 6 months ago and my doctor looked me dead in my face as I was crying and told me “Work is temporary, your health is more important…always.” This was followed by him letting me know I had ulcers. LOL. 26 with ulcers?! No bueno.
Fast forward to now, 6 months later…
After letting my family and friends know about my blog, I’m learning to not be afraid of looking silly. I’ve let go of that need to look perfect. I think that’s growth. Maybe that’s what growing up is all about.
Work has been going really well for me, I’m busy as hell but I am taking time for me and NOT feeling guilty about it. I think it’s time to share my most important piece of advice yet. Don’t laugh.
BE A ‘NO’ PERSON. Yes, you heard that correctly. Say no. And often.
Doesn’t it suck when you say yes to something you don’t feel like doing? Right after you say yes you become annoyed immediately. Not cute. Don’t worry about people calling you selfish. In fact, don’t worry about what anyone is saying about you. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself and set boundaries for your sanity. Let’s be honest, if someone in your life (boss, friend, family member) is not okay with you trying to keep your sanity, you should probably ditch the job, etc. LOL.
I used to be the person who would answer work emails AS SOON as I heard that ping on my iPhone. Now, when I hear that ping…whether I’m watching TiVo, reading a book, DRIVING…I don’t pick it up right away. I don’t drop my life for an email, I continue what I’m doing until I’m ready to look at it. Small change, big result.
Sometimes between work, working out, relationships, family obligations…you may forget that it’s okay to ditch that yoga sesh/networking event and just see a friend, cuddle your dog, have a cocktail!
Again remember, you’re not being selfish, you’re giving yourself the chance to be the best version of yourself. Take that opportunity. It’s so crucial for you and everyone around you. Learn to appreciate yourself. Don’t forget to accept where you’re at in this moment, be aware of the you that you are today…and love that person.
Sending light always. XO