I love a good date night. Quality time is so important to me. Quality time consists of many different things for me – a date at a new restaurant, a gym sesh and dinner at home, going to the driving range, a double date, a movie, wine and good conversation…you name it. Date night is mainly special because of the person I am going on these dates with…The one and only, CA. Granted, although we’ve only been dating for 6 months now…date nights have been consistent since day 1. Here’s some background on why I love our weekly date nights (The 4 C’s):
- Consistency. We have date night – every week – on the same day – and it rarely changes. Because of that, no matter what’s going on in our lives and whether I am able to see him or not during the week, I know that date night is around the corner and we’ll have quality time soon enough.
- Checking in. Checking in is so important. I think sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in everything that’s going on in our lives – work, friends, birthdays, holidays, weekend plans. Our date night is for us. It’s a time for us to talk things out, temperature check, have fun, and even plan. Speaking of planning, who has a shared calendar with their S.O.? HIGHLY suggest it! 🙂
- Commitment. One of the reasons why I love date night so much is because it shows a willingness to make the other person and your relationship a priority by setting aside special time. Really all I mean by that is – my boyfriend and I make sure that we don’t make plans on that day of the week with other people. Work engagements, friends, other obligations – those are set aside for the other 6 days of the week. It’s a great feeling to know that date nights are usually spent without our phones or our work emails.
- Communication. Scroll back to number 2. TIME TO CHECK IN. I’ve noticed that if there’s something a little heavier I want to talk about, I sometimes wait for date night. PAUSE – I know that could be a problem since date night is supposed to be fun, but hear me out! Communication is probably one of the top 3 reasons I truly appreciate the relationship I am in. My boyfriend is emotionally intelligent (AND VERY PATIENT) and takes time listen to whatever it is I have going on. With that being said, sometimes, it’s easier to talk something out over dinner…or while hitting a golf ball…or sipping on a glass of wine. 🙂 I know that interruptions will be few and far between during date night and having his undivided attention is critical when I am trying to communicate anything. Texting a long paragraph at midnight on a Tuesday while your S.O. is asleep won’t do much for you on Wednesday morning when he wakes up wondering WTH is up with you! LOL. In-person communication is key and I truly value the conversations we have – light, heavy, happy, fun, sad, etc.!
Lastly, since a lot of times our date nights start/end at a restaurant…I thought I’d share some of my favorite restaurants that we’ve visited so far:
- Cafe Santorini
- Din Tai Fung
- The Little Door
- Tao LA
A few fun date night activities:
- Driving range
- Dave & Busters
- Gym sesh + dinner
- Cooking at home
- Visiting a museum
Do you have a weekly/monthly date night? What do you usually do for date night? Suggestions are always welcome! XO.