I had to share this because I have decided that this year my blog was going to focus a little more on REAL life. I am currently living up to my goal of one blog post a week and I thought that this post was kind of necessary. January 15th (two weeks into the New Year) I decided I needed a do-over. Let me preface this by saying that my boyfriend and I had an incredible first day of the year. We spent the day together and went to dinner to write out all of our combined goals. The reason I needed a do-over was because there was a lot going on in the first couple of weeks and self-care was out the window. The main thing I want to talk about when mentioning self-care is friendships, relationships – family included — and everything in between.
I was doing my part throughout all the chaos in the beginning of the year to reach out to everyone and really put in an effort with many people. I was trying anything to make plans, see people, have conversations, etc. Then, my dog passed away. It sounds crazy but even though he was definitely my brother’s dog – this whole situation just had me so upset. I didn’t post about it but then my brother decided to post about it. Immediately we received an outpouring of comments, DMs, texts, etc. It’s crazy how much a dog really is a part of the family and your everyday life. I noticed that people I haven’t talked to just reached out to ask “how he died” and “what was wrong with him” – that annoyed TF out of me. Like “hey, how are you? Where TF have you been?” Then I had the amazing texts from people who just genuinely get it or at least were sympathetic. It really was eye opening: some people are genuinely so caring and nice – some people are just plain nosey. That’s when I made the decision to stop putting in effort. Let me explain – I still put in effort every single day of my life – but now I am only doing it for people who make the same effort. If I am asking to hang out with you for months and you can’t figure it out…bye. If I am only hearing from you to get information on the sickness my dog had…bye. If you can’t even text me back and have a real conversation with some real SUBSTANCE…bye. Since when did emoji’s become a response to things? Over it. And let me just say – NO HARD FEELINGS. I feel WAY better about this. I am just not reaching out. Ball is in their court.
Maybe people will notice, maybe they won’t, maybe we’ve outgrown each other – whatever it may be – I am okay with it. Over the past year (specifically last year) – January 2017 and on—I have remained so very grateful for everything in my life. And I realized that a lot of my efforts with people were just going to waste. I am still so grateful – I have just decided to put my happiness first. I have learned that those who are truly happy in their own lives will be happy for you too. It just is what it is. I have had many times where I’ve been in a shitty situation and have still found true happiness for others – it’s called growth, love, support…you get it. I highly suggest you take the time to reevaluate who is around you and what those people bring to your life. Life is about give and take—I’m done giving freely—some might call it being selfish…I call it SELF CARE. XO